If you see something, please say something

One morning in 1993, I came downstairs to see my mother frantically pleading over the phone.  I asked her who it was and she said it was my sister.  She was suicidal and threatening harm in front of her 4-year-old son.  This caused me to immediately flash back to my childhood when I used to observe the same type of behavior from her when our parents would leave us home alone.  Something snapped in me.  “Not this time”, I said to myself. I grabbed my keys, hopped in my car and sped down the road.

3651344537_ca1f1e70c1As I pulled into the driveway of my grandparent’s home, I was terrified and hoping that I got there fast enough to prevent a tragedy.  I ran in the house asking for the phone.  My grandfather asked why and I explained the situation.  To my surprise, he told me I could not use the phone to call 911 on my sister. “We don’t do that”, he said.  “We don’t put our business out in the street.”

I couldn’t believe it!  Did he even hear what I said? My sister was threatening bodily harm in front of her son.  Rather than stand there and argue, I hopped back in my car, drove to a local store and used the payphone to call 911.  The police arrived, diffused the situation and told my sister she either had to go to jail or go get help.  She chose help and was taken to a local mental institution that day.  That started her down the path of being able to ultimately getting the proper diagnosis and treatment for her condition.

That night was a horrible night because no one in my family supported my decision.  I was labeled a trouble maker and scolded for doing what I knew was right.  In hindsight, I wouldn’t change a thing because my sister is still here with me and to me that is the most important thing.

I share this story because I have lived through mental health crisis as a family member.  I share this because I know the positive that can happen when you say something if you see something is off.  Sadly, we all know what happens when you don’t say something if you see something.  It’s all over the news and continues to make headlines more often than not.

It’s not okay to look away when someone is struggling.  It’s not okay to make it someone else’s problem.  It’s not okay to hush people for fear of what others will say.  Who cares if your family business is on the street because you choose to get your loved one help?  You have ability to choose the headline.  If you don’t circumstance might just choose it for you.

Educate yourself.  Please visit the  Campaign to Change Direction to learn 5 signs that someone you know and love may be suffering from emotional distress.

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“When”sday

When I turn XX I am going to….. When I save $$ I plan to….. When I find Mr. Right I know I will…. When my kids get older I’ll finally be able to….. When I find out he is acting up I will… When my boss calls me in to her office I will… When I get back from vacation I will… When Monday get’s here I will…

WhenEverything is “when” as if there is some perfect moment to make a move, make change and be better. Like we must continue to cope with, put up with, deal with other people’s mess, fears, let downs limitations, expectations and make them our own. As if tomorrow presents a more favorable season than today.

Why not make today “When”sday???? ‪#‎perspectiveiseverything‬

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Forgive Yourself

How long are you going to let your past mistakes dictate your future? We all have done things we are not proud of. I’ll be the first to admit that I have made a number of missteps in my life and will continue to do so. I’m human and there is nothing wrong with that. The issues lies in never getting past those mistakes and never applying forgiveness to oneself.

Failure is a bruiseFailing to forgive oneself manifests itself in a number of ways in our lives. For some if manifests through the choices of life partners they make. For others is manifests through the treatment they accept from others. For some it manifests in the way they handle their finances. Yet for others it manifests in the effort, or lack thereof, they put into their mental, emotional and physical well-being.

The point is you cannot heal if you cannot first forgive yourself. If you don’t you will feel held back and you won’t understand why. Mistakes bruise our minds and hearts but time and forgiveness heals. Just like you wouldn’t continue to pick at or repeatedly hit a bruised area on your physical body, you shouldn’t keep re-bruising your mind and your heart lamenting over things you did wrong in the past. Learn from your missteps and move on. And if you’re not willing to do this, then be willing to accept that what you have in this moment is likely all you will ever get.

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Be Glad It’s “Today”

We Passion, Purpose, Positivity's photo.made it!!! Monday is gone and we are one day closer to the weekend – a long weekend at that! While each day represents one day closer to what many feel is a more enjoyable part of our week, why not take a moment to see the value in every day. Each day of the week is called something different when we are in expectation of it but when in the midst of each day they are called the same – TODAY! Try not to rush through and away today in anticipation of tomorrow or you will end up with nothing but yesterdays.

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It’s “My”Day!

downloadIs it me or does it seem like this weekend flew by?  I mean, they usually always do but this weekend in particular is a blur.  I always go into the weekend with such grand plan – I’m going to do this and I am going to do that.  In the end, when I take inventory of my weekend, well, I didn’t do much at all.  But you know what?  That’s okay!  Because today is Monday or “My”day!  My day to hit the reset button.  My day to plan to succeed.  My day to get things done.  My day to do whatever I set my mind to.  Had I managed to accomplish everything I set out to do this weekend, I may not have this resolve or energy to attack Monday.  So no regrets about the weekend.  Just determination to make “My”day work.  #bestrongerthanyourexcuses #perspectiveiseverything#putYOUfirst #runtheday

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